hormones.

for starters
-words of chris (http://www.csanmusic4life.blogspot.com/):

"ALL OF you girls who take pictures of your body, or half naked put it on facebook or myspace or get drunk at parties and dance like your a hoe and wear clothes like that you invite guys to see you that way and treat you that way. Then when you get done dirty by one of those bum ass niggas you say "DUDeS AINT SHIT", No! look what you attract to yourself. Its all about how you carry yourself and its sad what yall do for the attention of us men. IF you dont want to be treated like a hoe dont wear the uniform or play the part. HAVE SOME RESPECT FOR YOURSELF AND ACT LIKE A LADY!!!"


so me and sunny (http://mzsunnydae.blogspot.com/)were talking today about guys and their need to always express their raging hormones to females like we don't have any as well. i must say even though it's "normal" for a guy to be hormonal aka horny that does not give them permission to think that have rights to be rude, have a sense of entitlement or think that we (females) owe them anything of that matter. i feel that everyone should always have the option of saying no. yes, there may be consequences of saying it in certain situations but in this case there is no consequence in saving your pride and reputation. side note: i remember i once asked a group of my guy friends why they were so fascinated with boobs. their reply: because we don't have any. lol?

and for the quote from chris: ladies. please spare yourselves the humiliation and embarassment of the public masses. put some clothes on, respect yourselves and have some dignity why don't you? do yourself a favor trust me you'll feel alot better.

and if it's your thing to strut your stuff then go right ahead, no one's stopping you, exute confidence and appreciation for your body if that's what you choose. but if you're just doing it do get attention or appreciation from others rather than yourself, then there are some underlying issues that you need to deal with.

but for me, the motto should be be a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets

but it's all in this entry:
http://mzsunnydae.blogspot.com/2009/03/like-chase.html

for the record: sunny is the girl that likes to chase the boys..no not being a simp but she likes when they play hard to get yet they still show interest in HER. me on the other hand am the opposite. i like people to chase ME. i don't care if that sounds shallow in any way but that's the way things are. i can't be persistent after a guy...i don't know i just can't reach out to hit up guys whether it be aim, myspace, phone, txt whatever. unless you're a realllly close friend of mine. but other than that i see it this way: if you really wanted to talk to me you would take the time out of your "busy schedule" to see how i'm doing. again. i don't see contacting guys as a bad thing, it's just not me.

words of sunny:

i'm pretty. bomb. cute. beautiful. smart. intelligent. i have goals. i have self-respect. i'm going places in my life other than the street corner or the clinic...you can fall in line or get out of my life.

auction block.

black women are STILL on the auction block.
100 years later and we're in the SAME position.
i look at these music videos and they're degrading and disrespectful
but at the same time for me it's conflicting because even though it's wrong
they get aroused.
they and we all KNOW we should be anti-sexist, anti-patriarchal but that's just what society has implanted within our minds on what is the "norm" but not necessarily what is right
at the same time women don't have a choice either
women who are working IN the videos: they're obviously doing it for a reason
money or fame. and i know that as a woman it must be hard to put yourself out there explicitly for the whole world to see.
women who are watching: we know it's wrong we know that we should be accepted for who we are and NOT by our sexuality. but that's just the way things are. Most men are attracted to these images and what they see within the media. Not saying it's right but that's how it's come over the matter of years.
remember when it was okay for a man to be sensitive and not get "dogged" for it??
the 90s. great example. boys II men, jodeci, kc & jo jo, etc. black men exuding their emotions and putting them out on the line to show their affection for a woman.
now it's all hard core and everyone wants to be a wanna be thug. thinking that they're cool because they got shot and survived. or those who think that dying from a bullet wound is heroic in some way or dying for your "hood." ever think that sometimes the hood isn't always gunna have your back. They're not going to be their 24/7 and one day your luck or your 9 lives will run out.
Point is: what you see is definately NOT what you get. if these rappers are so-called thugs and "hard" how r they living in mansions and popping champagne at an after party, giving their wives or girlfriends rings and showing the same affection behind closed doors that boy groups in the 90s, etc were showing for everyone to see.
It's truly a shame.

this is all a part of the capitalistic system.